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Episode 18: Nelson Lauver, Author of Most Unlikely to Succeed: The Trials, Travels, and Ultimate Triumphs of a “Throwaway” Kid

Episode 18: Nelson Lauver, Author of Most Unlikely to Succeed: The Trials, Travels, and Ultimate Triumphs of a “Throwaway” Kid

April 17, 2014


Nelson Lauver learned at the age of 29 that he was dyslexic.

Unfortunately, throughout his school experience no one knew this. As he struggled in school, he had to face a choice…be the dumb kid or be the bad kid. He chose to be the bad kid.

As he progressed through each grade what was really happening was that they were promoting him to get him out of their classes and eventually out of the school. He graduated 104th out 104 students.

Nelson and I talk about his experiences as a kid and as a young man trying to hold down a job.

Nelson has the following statement on his website: “A better world starts with the courage to believe you have something to contribute.” He has an amazing story and explanation surrounding this wonderful thought! As you listen to him, you will say, “You know…I think that he is talking to me…that he is telling me that I could contribute to this world…”

His memoir will touch your heart and make you wish that you could have been there to help him.

In response to this…He says that he can only move forward and take these experiences and use them for good.

My favorite part of our talk is when he starts talking about…Don’t give up on that kid!

After you listen to his story, I hope that you will take time to check out his website and look at his foundation and the work that he is doing to help promote literacy.

Also, listen to his wonderful talks under the link “audio stories.” You will not be disappointed.

His memoir is the winner of three book awards….

Gold Medal: Book of the Year, Independent Publisher Association 2011

Gold Medal: Inspirational Category Winner, INDIE Book Awards 2011

Silver Medal: Memoir Category INDIE Book Awards 2011

Find out more information about Nelson at his website…


You can order his memoir at Amazon. Click on the title to go to that page. Most Unlikely to Succeed


Length 47:06

Episode 16: B.O.S.S. United- Helping kids and families be successful with Barry Frazier and Richard Hamilton

Episode 16: B.O.S.S. United- Helping kids and families be successful with Barry Frazier and Richard Hamilton

March 26, 2014

B.O.S.S. United (Believers of Sincere Standards United, Inc)

Specializing in helping kids and families be successful!
Barry Frazier, CEO, MDIV MA LPC
Richard Hamilton, Chief Clinical officer, MA LPC
The vision for BOSS united grew out of a mentor program at Barry's undergraduate university. According to Barry, "I grew up in a very urban area that was not conducive to being successful. I wanted to give back to kids who were like me." 
During my show preparation, I ran across the term cognitive behavioral therapy on their website. This is a term that I am not quite familiar with so I asked what it meant...in my layman's version...It has to do with how they get people to change. Basically, it has to do with addressing the way a person thinks and behaves. This was a fascinating discussion to me.
I asked them to identify and talk about some of the major issues that they have to address with families. Richard explained, "Most frequently it is family conflict. The members of the family don't know how to express themselves." On top of this, they explained "children are often dealing with anger, anxiety, depression, and a lack of focus." 
They work with kids who range in ages from five to twenty, if the twenty year old is still in school.
Barry and Richard talk about how it is important to see the world through the lenses of the kids. In other words, to see and approach their behaviors from an understanding of where the kids are coming from.
They have created another aspect of B.O.S.S which is named F.O. C.U.S. (Fathers Offering Counseling Understanding and Support).
This program is designed to introduce boys to proper male role models. The group studies leadership, dress for success, anger management, speaking, addressing young ladies, as well as other topics.
When asked about advice for teachers and school administrators, Barry and Richard offered, "It  is important to be patient." They encouraged educators to revisit human growth and development writings. They suggested dusting off the books and becoming familiar with what happens at different ages. The point being that the adult will be more patient when he recognizes behavior that is typical for the age.
I learned much from this discussion. I know that you will, too!
By the way, we were in a Chick-fil-A that was fairly empty when we started the interview, but rapidly was filled with moms and kids. We were right next to the playground which added a nice nuance for a discussion about helping children and their families. At one point, there was a little boy, knocking on the glass trying to get us to look and his mom mouthing apologies as she lead him back to the slide. What a nice, happy environment! 
You can learn more about BOSS United at www.bossunited.com
Length 29:39